Women have sexual needs too
I just don't get it. Well (snicker) you know I don't get it until I marry my sweetheart (giggle) but seriously, I don't get it why sex is nearly always portrayed as the wife meeting the husband's need? Why not her need too? Don't get me wrong, I am looking forward to meeting Sweetheart's sexual needs more than anything. And I joyfully met my first husband's sexual needs for many years. But I'll never forget what a huge paradigm shift it was for me to realize that I have sexual needs too. As a wife, as a woman, as a lover, embracing and cultivating that awareness of my sexual needs made all the difference in the world. I was not a martyr, I was a hot mama!
So many times, I read Christian women's blogs talking about sex, they are talking about spiritual reasons to do what they know they should do (make love to their husband) and do it with a servant heart. Now I believe that serving one another in marriage is the real deal. It's very important. But if wives aren't having fun in the bedroom, then serving him can start to feel like martyrdom. And who wants to make love to a martyr? Who wants to be a martyr? I believe that if a woman knows how mindblowing sex can be, she will want to make love on a regular basis.
I want to hold every Christian wife by the hand and say, "Oh darling there are oceans of pleasure available to you! You have sexual needs. Cultivate them! Embrace them! Get in tune with your desires and let your man bless you. You will rock his world and yours too!"
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December 11th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
You are a rare find girl! Finally, I feel like I'm not alone. I keep digging around in your archives and keep being delighted.
Married sex is the cushion that softens life, takes the edge off pain, keeps our estrogen flowing, floods us with endorphins, relieves stress and is the deepest form of play and intimacy on all fronts. You say it over and over in many ways. Thanks for straight talking in a hollywood culture full of misinformation. Thanks for speaking boldly AS A WOMAN! You have influence and use it wisely.
Keep on letting people know it is a tragedy to be invited to the banquet and not eat with abandon.
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January 5th, 2010 at 4:17 am
I don't know. My wife has on more than a few occasions exclaimed "That was heaven on Earth!" and then proceeded to refuse me for 4-5 weeks at a time. The memory of that passion always seems forgotten or gets stuck in the mire of a listless libido.
w: "That was heaven on Earth!
h: "Do you want to do it again?"
w: "Not tonight dear."
h:
Don't get me wrong. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE keep putting out the message. Maybe it will sink in for some. I certainly hope so. Being undesirable to your mate.........it's just an ache that never ends.