A book I can’t wait to read
He's been my friend on twitter for quite a while and hoo-boy! Get a look at what @recreate has been up to! Randy Elrod has been writing a book on my favorite theme of helping people connect the dots between sexuality and spirituality. His book is called Sex Lies and Religion. He asked the question, "Why do we have sex?" and as you can imagine he received many many answers. Well of course, this question struck a nerve with me. A happy happy nerve. Because it reminded me of my mission. To help women connect with their sexuality in a healthy way.
And I'm fiftykindsofgrateful for that reminder. That gentle nudge back to my calling. And I'll tell you why.
My apartment needs a good tidying. I'm behind on laundry. I'm caught up on sleep, thanksbetoGod. My bills are paid, but I do need to balance the checkbook. My muscles are tight from skipping the gym for the last 3 months. My corporate writing gig, the one I am grateful for, has sucked the life out of me because it has dominated my time. This morning I was praying, "help me reconnect with my SensuousWife mission". And then I read Sheila Walsh's retweet of Randy's question. Why do we have sex? And answers sprang to mind effortlessly. Bing! I was right on track.
The answers I shared were:
- Because the sweaty unladylikeness of sex unlocks something in the feminine heart that needs to be loosed.
- Because when our brain is exhausted, our skin can still speak.
- Because sometimes words fail us.
- Because we are horny.
- To bind our spirit soul and body all together with our mate's spirit soul & body
I'm honored that Randy included my tweets in his blog post here.
So, darlings. Randy's poll is closed, but I'd really like to hear your response. What do you think? What do you feel about this?
Why do we have sex?
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December 23rd, 2009 at 12:10 pm
Why do we have sex? Because we were designed to have sex!
Really, it's that simple.
"Cause if you're a human who understands that you were designed to resemble God as part of a two in one unity that manifests itself in our combined sexuality then you understand that we were designed to have sex.
We were designed to have sex. Sex permeates everything you are; even defining what type of human you are- Male or Female. You were designed to arouse the other so that you would experience sex.
Therefore, because sex exists, marriage exists- otherwise our conscience, the gateway to spiritual understanding, isn't appeased should we have sex before an exchange of vows to belong solely to the one that we want to have sex with because we've fallen in love with them.
We were designed to fall in love and to want to have sex. And that frequently, once the vows are exchanged. Thus, unless we were taught that sex is 'dirty' or a 'necessary evil'- of which such thinking is sinful and slap in the face to the God who designed you to have sex- we find ourselves drawn to the scent and taste of our lover's sex because we were designed to be drawn into it and experience all that this leads to. And in following this designed path of arousal, we experience pleasure together both in the giving and the receiving; pleasure that bonds us together into a compound unity that resembles our Creator's relationship among Himself.
Which means that the desires we feel that some may call 'naughty' (*smile*) we were designed to feel for our lover as we learn our lover through and with our body our soul our mind and our spirit-all of which are engaged when we start having sex with our lover.
And we start wanting to have sex with them because we were designed to fall in love.
We are indeed creatures of love, as David Byrne once wrote: http://search.aol.com/aol/search?s_it=topsearchbox.search&q=Talking+Heads+Video+Creatures+of+Love (I couldn’t find a video)
And in this being creatures of love we were designed to resemble our Creator who designed us to have sex because He liked the idea.
So, as soon as you get use to that idea you'll likely find that you like His designs for you.
For He is a God of righteousness and goodness, after all... and He designed you, dear reader, Y-O-U, to have sex.
Get use to it
Elyew