I usually make this cake for birthdays but don't wait for a birthday. Every day is worth celebrating with this dreamy creamy frosting, and this cake is good enough to serve in bed. After all, any cake you eat in your birthday suit is birthday cake, right? (grin)

Here's what you'll need:

• Duncan Hines supermoist Dark Chocolate Fudge cake mix
• 3 large eggs
• 1 1/3 cups water
• 1/2 cup plus 1 Tbsp Extra Virgin coconut oil
• 16 oz. sour cream
• 16 0z. Cool Whip
• 16 oz. powdered sugar

1. Preheat oven to 350.
2. Pour cake mix, eggs and liquid coconut oil into mixing bowl and beat on medium high speed for 7 minutes.
   Note we are adding the same amount of water and same number of eggs recommended by the cake mix box but adding a bit more coconut oil. Extra virgin coconut oil is healthy so no need to skimp and we want this cake to be moist.
3. Grease the cake pans with solid coconut oil.  Coconut oil is solid at room temperature and liquid when it gets to 76 degrees. After you measure out the liquid oil, then place the jar in the freezer for 5 minutes to make it solid. No need to flour pans. Pans will be oily, not snowy white like Crisco. That's okay.
4. Pour the batter into 3 cake pans 8" or 9" in diameter. If you only have 2 cake pans, that's okay. It's better to make 3 layers if you can.
5. Bake for 25 minutes which is 10 minutes less than cake mix says. Test and see if the cakes are done by inserting a clean knife into the middle of the cake. If it comes out clean, they're done. If it comes out gooey, bake cake for 3 more minutes and check again. We want the cake to be as moist as possible without being gooey.
6. While the cake is baking, put a glass or metal mixing bowl into the freezer to cool. We'll use this bowl for the frosting.
7. Allow the cake to cool completely. This may take a while, so bake the cakes first and make the frosting while the layers cool.
8. While the layers are cooling, let's make the frosting.
   Add the sour cream and Cool Whip to the chilled mixing bowl and mix on high speed. Gently add the sugar while still mixing. Be gentle! You don't want a cloud of sugar in the air! Frosting will be fluffy and tangy sweet. Put frosting bowl back in the fridge while you prep the cake.
9. Prep the cake. So many people skip this step and wow does it make a cake taste like an amateur if you do. But you're gonna make a dreamy sensuous cake that tastes fabulous. Here's what you're gonna do. Gently touch the cake and make SURE it is not warm to the touch. If it's just room temperature, then transfer the cake to a dinner plate. Place the dinner  plate over the cake pan or cooling rack,  hold firmly with both hands, and flip the cake over to place it on the dinner plate. Look carefully around the perimeter of the cake and notice the dry edges that pulled away from the cake pan. These edges are hard and when we prep the cake, we're gonna remove them. Take a sharp knife and hold it at a 45 degree angle and gently cut off the outer edge of the cake. Once the cake is frosted, the rounded edges will be filled in with frosting, so don't worry!
10. Place the first layer on your cake plate, bottom side up. Smooth on a generous amount of frosting and smooth it out. The frosting in between the layers should be between 1/4 to 1/2 inch tall. Add the second and third layer and repeat the process. At this point, you may find the frosting starts to warm up and get a bit runny. Feel free to place the cake back in the fridge, and place the bowl of frosting back in the freezer for 5 minutes until it firms up. Set a timer! You don't want frozen frosting.
11. Once the frosting has firmed up a bit, use a spatula to smooth the frosting around the edges of the cake, filling in any gaps with frosting. This is a very moist frosting, due to the moisture in the sour cream. This is a good thing! Refrigerate the cake overnight and the moisture from the frosting will seep into the cake making this cake the most decadent moist cake you've ever put in your mouth.

The extra virgin coconut oil will add the taste and aroma of coconut to the chocolate cake. If you desire, you may add coconut on top of the frosting. If you choose to do this, buy Bakers' shredded coconut, pour into a bowl, and add a few drops of Borden Eagle Brand sweetened condensed milk and stir. This will make the coconut extra moist and help it to stick nicely to the frosting.

Serve well chilled and slice soon after removing cake from the fridge. This cake is a gorgeous showstopper at parties and the extra frosting can used as body paint for a more intimate party for two. (wink)

These pancakes are higher in protein and lower in carbs than traditional pancakes. Perfect for The Orgasmic Diet. The coconut oil adds a lovely aroma. Be sure to save some coconut oil for more sensuous pursuits*. (wink)

4 eggs
2 cups milk
3/4 cup all purpose flour
1 Tbsp Splenda
1/4 tsp salt
2 Tbsp melted coconut oil
lingonberries

Beat the eggs until just barely fluffy-about 2 minutes. Add milk, continue to beat on medium speed. Add flour, Splenda and salt, then coconut oil. Ladle onto hot griddle that has been lubricated with coconut oil. Cook gently until just barely dry then flip and continue cooking for half a minute. Serve warm with butter and lingonberries.
Thank you @StanCoMarriage and MichiganTalberts for requesting this. Y'all enjoy!

*coconut oil is a wonderful lubricant for massage and intercourse

Exfoliating. It's not a new concept. But I betcha haven't ever exfoliated with something that you could actually eat if you wanted to. It's so easy. Place a half dollar sized dollop of coconut oil in the palm of your hand,

Okay, if you're wondering how in the world you're supposed to dollop a liquid then you prolly haven't heard of coconut oil before. No worries. Coconut oil is discussed all over TMB which is also known as TMI in some circles but I happen to love the place. My favorite kind of coconut oil is Nature's Way EFA Gold Organic. I like it best because it comes in a nice-sized widemouthed plastic jar with an easy-to-grip cap. It's organic so the essential fatty acids are fresh and not rancid, preserving that lovvvvvely coconutty smell. Unlike some organic brands of coconut oil, this brand is consistenly slippery because they do a spendid job of filtering out any pesky bits of coconut that might make the oil feel gritty.

Okay, so you can spend hours investigating and pontificating on coconut oil over at TMB where they'll tell you all kindds of splendid ways to use it, but for now let's get back to our exfoliating recipe. For the sake of time, let's just say that coconut oil is a solid at most room temperatures and becomes a liquid when it melts in your hand.

So, place a half dollar sized dollop of coconut oil in the palm of your hand, and pour in the contents of one sugar packet (you don't really want to keep a jar of sugar and a measuring spoon in your bathroom do you?) Stir it with your index finger until the coconut oil is all melty and you have a nice thick, smooth and scratchy consistency. Now, before you get all gung-ho and apply it to your scratchy elbows or whatever else you want to exfoliate, step into the shower. Trust me on this. Once you're in the shower, massage this delightful smelling goo all over your elbow or your knee or whatever else you want to exfoliate. If you also happen to also need to shave your legs, I recommend you start your coconut sugar exfoliation with one of your legs from knee to ankle. You'll notice at first the sugar granules are verrrry scratchy. Stay calm but be gentle for heaven's sake. You're trying to remove the tiny outer layer of dead skin cells not gouge off a tattoo. After just a few seconds, you'll notice that while the sugar granules haven't lost their scratch, the coconut oil seems to be dissapearing and the skin you are exfoliating is starting to feel verrrrrry sofffft. The oil isn't disappearing, silly, it's soaking into your skin delivering it's lovely payload of essential fatty acids. Okay, you're nearly done. Reach back with one hand into the shower stream (didn't I tell you to turn on the shower before you started? Ooops. Sorry!)Actually, that's okay because if your skin isn't perfectly dry when you first apply the coconut oil sugar mixture it won't work at all. Okay, now where were we? Oh, yeah. Whether from the faucet or the shower, reach into the stream of water and cup a teeny bit of water in the palm of your hand, and apply it to the area you've been exfoliating. After 1 or 3 rubs, you'll feel the sugar granules start to dissolve and the scratchy feeling finally goes away. Great! You're nearly done. Rub for a few more seconds and allow the rest of the coconut oil and melted sugar to baby your skin. It will be very gooey at this point. Now, if you happen to be exfoliating your shin in anticpation of shaving, reach over and grab your razor. Use this thin layer of sugar coconut goo as your shaving cream and shave your legs. Be careful and gentle. Your razor will easily zoom all over your superexfoliated skin. It will prolly be the closest smoothest sweetest smelling shave you've ever had.

Okay, now rinse. Water only no soap. You want to wash away the sticky melted sugar (that stuff could attract ants!) but you want to leave the lurvely essential fatty acids from the coconut oil. Step out of the shower (for heaven sakes be careful and step onto a rug or bathmat!) Now blot gently with a towel. Preferably one of your really soffft towels. You'll notice that your legs feel extrordinarily soffffft and that hair didn't stand a chance, did it? Don't you feel silllky and lovvvvveely?

Wait! Before you reach for that bottle of lotion..the last step after shaving is usually to moisturize your skin with lotion, right? Well, you can skip that moisturizing step, cause you already did that. It's sorta like the life-is-short-so-eat-dessert-first dynamic. Life is short so moisturize first before and during shaving so you don't have to wait till afterward.

So this coconut sugar beauty treatment....It smells verrrrry good. It's fairly inexpensive. It works incredibly well. It's edible. What else could a girl want?

By the way, girls, don't pass up on a major flirting opportunity here. Sidle up to your husband who is doubtless sitting on the couch watching sports with the remote gripped firmly in hand because that is a husband's natural habitat. (But after all the sneaky corporate SOBs the poor dear man has to parry and fight all day long, doesn't he deserve a few minutes of peace?) So go sit on the sofa next to your husband and slowly sensously place one of your legs in his lap. Say to him, "darling, I've just tried a new kind of organic shaving lotion. What do you think?" And place his hand over your leg and then don't. say. a word. Just relax and watch his cursory swipe become a fondle. Good for you and your sweet coconut self! -SW